How To Get A Second Date Without Trying Too Hard And Scaring Her Away

How you approach the end of the first date will help determine if she goes out with you again...

How you approach the end of the first date will help determine if she goes out with you again…

You’ve finally made it out on the first date. You’ve planned a relaxed evening. You know what to do at the start of the first date, telling her about yourself while enticing her to tell you about herself. You haven’t done so badly that she’s fled and left you alone.

After dinner and the other activities planned for the date, what do you do?  How do you complete your “close”, impressing her sufficiently to have a second date?  What should you do as the first date winds down to finish that event while setting the stage for the next?

You could give her a friendly hug, but this might seem sheepish or awkward. You could try to kiss her, but this could put off girls who want to go slow. You could invite her to your place, but unless she’s seemed eager for a sexual interlude, you’ll come off as a cad acting as if you expect sex in exchange for a date.

If you want to make a good first impression, and this is what the first date is, then don’t do any of these things. Don’t hug her, kiss her or proposition her.

This seems counter-intuitive to many men. Yet those actions are common behaviors by most men, and you’ll stand out by not doing these things.

You won’t look awkward, as if you’re compromising between a handshake and a kiss by hugging her. You won’t seem overly romantic or immature by kissing her on a first date. And you won’t seem like a jerk or opportunist by acting as if dinner entitles you to sex.

By doing something different, you’ll stand out. And you’re less likely to make a mistake by combining something as special as a first kiss with a first date.

By taking her to the date and not moving too quickly into physical contact, you’ll engage her long term interest. You’ll draw her toward you by suggesting a second date but leaving the options open for her to consider.

You’ll have days to plan the next event, without worrying about whether your awkward first kiss ruined an otherwise great first impression or if suggesting you have coffee at your place scared her away.

What exactly then should you do?

Step 1: Escort her to the cab, her car or her residence, ensuring that she gets to her ride or her home safely.

Step 2: Lean in as if to kiss her as you say your goodbyes.

Step 3: Instead of kissing her on the lips, kiss her on the cheek.

Step 4: After you’ve kissed her cheek, simply say, “I had a great time. Maybe we should do this again.”

Step 5: Walk away without another word.

Why walk her home? This is gentlemanly and shows that you are interested in protecting her, giving up time and convenience for her sake. It makes a good impression.

Why should you kiss her on the cheek? It is a tender gesture, but non-sexual. It impresses a girl that you show that you care and reassures those who would be frightened by forward sexual advances. And no one can critique the technique. Furthermore, it is done so rarely that she’s sure to remember you.

Why say those words? It says you enjoyed her company and would like to continue seeing her.  However, it puts the onus on her to plan the next event or reach out to you.  Leaving the possibilities open avoids the possibility that your suggestion of a second date gets shot down.  Walking away without another word gives her a considering and kind goodbye without the long, awkward silences or halting “see you soon” or “maybe I’ll call” conversations.

Saying something like “I really want to see you again” can come off as self-centered. Trying to plan for the next date can take the glow left by this one. This ending generates a sense of mystery for the woman and wondering about what comes next, building anticipation for finding out what you’ll do next time.

By being left with this open ended invitation to go out again, she’ll think about the date and you much more than she would otherwise if you were just one more cad who took her out for dinner and drinks before demanding “payment”.

Women actually enjoy the romantic actions outlined in this plan. It causes her brain to release dopamine, a hormone associated with pleasure and addiction. It is the natural high that occurs during adolescent “puppy” love. And using this simple scenario to end the date seals the deal for the next one.

How Do I Get A Girl To Chase Me?

Get her to chase you and half the work is already done...

Get her to chase you and half the work is already done…

A lot of guys wonder what they can do to make a girl chase them. If there’s a girl in your college or area you like, you can use some simple tips to make sure she likes you back, and even does everything to make sure you stay interested in her. In this post, we have discussed these tips.

Understand Her

Before you can design any plans to keep her chasing you, it’s important to completely understand her. It’s important to be as objective as possible and figure out what she exactly wants. You shouldn’t overdo anything. It’s important to make her feel that completely understand her feelings, and value her opinions.  This will make her want you more.

Reach Out To Her

Contact her on phone or leave a message asking if she would be interested in having something non-committal like grabbing a couple of drinks or meeting for a cup of coffee.  Start with emails and text messages. If she responds, call her and arrange a meeting. Make sure your messages sound light and playful.

Resist from being too serious or overwhelming for her. If she rejects, do not push her and giver her more space. Do not send more than one message a day or she might get agitated and block you from all point of contact. You need to make sure she comes to you on her own. This will make it easier to for you to keep her enticed in future.

Get Together – Play Casual

You should make efforts to make the meeting fun, casual and flirty. No girl would want to chase a guy who acts miserable. Show her the version of you that she might fall in love with. It’s important to praise her looks, and make her feel wanted. Once she sees that you care, she won’t resist telling you how much she wants you.

Go For It

Continue meeting her for casual drinks and coffees. Make her feel comfortable and relaxed in your company. If you’re sure that you really want her, let her see your positive side. Make her laugh and assure her that you’re serious about being with her. Let her know that you’re a mature person and the relationship will be serious for you.

In order to make sure your efforts don’t go in vain, you’d need a lot of patience, time and good communication. Work on these pointers and nothing can stop you from getting a girl to chase you.

For a step-by-step approach to getting women to chase you and turning the one woman you really want into your loyal and committed girlfriend, see the Girlfriend Activation System.

How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone With A Woman You Really Want

The friend zone is no place to be with a woman you really want!

The friend zone is no place to be with a woman you really want!

Being irresistible to women is about accentuating all the strengths, and covering different weaknesses.  Whether they’re physical, emotional or mental, you need to have the confidence of achieving whatever you want. This is the most important step to get out of the friendzone.

It is important to understand that becoming irresistible is more about you, and less about the other person. Thus, you need to focus on yourself.

Here are 3 ways regarding how to get out of the friend zone, and be irresistible to women.

An Irresistible Personality

In order to be irresistible, you need to work on every aspect of your personality. It is very important to be confident and humorous. Women always like men with a good sense of humor. You should also be nice and humble. Women never like men with lots of attitude and arrogance. Most importantly, you need to be yourself. You should not try to pretend you’re someone else.

With a good personality, the woman of your dreams, your friend will find you irresistible. She won’t be able to resist the temptation of being in your arms, and sharing herself completely with you. She won’t want to remain just a friend.

Be Physically Irresistible

Your appearance will be one of the key aspects to be irresistible to women.  You need to wear good clothes in which you feel comfortable. Applying some cosmetics doesn’t make you any less of a man. Other key aspects are styling your hair, smelling good and working out are necessities to enhance your personality, and become physically irresistible.

Almost every woman loves a man with good body. It’s not hard to focus on building rock hard abs, but some good muscles in your chest and bicep area will take you a long away from the friend zone.

Be Flirtatious

Flirting is one of the most important qualities you need to attract women. You need to make proper eye contact, and smile a lot. It is also important to be a good conversationalist. You need to break the touch barrier, and make the woman feel comfortable around you. Last but not the least, leave the woman wanting for more. It is always good to be a bit mysterious and seductive. No woman can resist such a man.

When you want to get out of the friend zone, it’s important to properly communicate your feelings to the woman. She needs to know that you want something more. You should also use these tips to make sure she gives you what you want.